Sex During Pregnancy

Before we go any further, know that not all pregnant folks, or their partners, feel comfortable with the idea of sex during pregnancy. Maybe it's uncomfortable. Maybe it's just not your jam. Wherever you land on that spectrum is OK! You do you.

That being said (and assuming you’ve not been advised to avoid sex or orgasm), sex during pregnancy for some folks can be ahhhhmazing! Extra blood flow to the area, coupled with an increase in hormones can lead to really feeling yourself! Take advantage of it; curves are appearing, things are rounding out and many folks find a new level of attraction, and connection with their partner during this special time. Try adding some lubrication (it will be your best friend for post-baby sex, too) and grab your partner (or not)!

The best positions for sex during pregnancy are going to vary from person to person, couple to couple, BUT there are some universal positions that seem to be a little more comfortable. Remember, the biggest rule here is to get creative and do what works for YOU! 

First tip, try rear entry. Especially towards the end of pregnancy, the bump may be in the way. Try doggie style on all fours or, if that's too much weight to support, prop yourself over a birth ball, stack of pillows, or even try standing over the edge of the bed (or table or desk).  

Cuddle up! Spooning, or side-lying, is another great position for labor, and because of all the skin-to-skin contact, this helps with releasing feel-good labor hormones (hello there, oxytocin)!

Finally, climb on top! This one is ideal for a couple of reasons: the pregnant person is able to control the depth and speed of penetration, which is important since all the extra blood flow during pregnancy can really make things sensitive. And, hello nipple play! We know that nipple stimulation releases oxytocin, the love and squeeze hormone, which is a key player in labor contractions.

Not into the idea of nipple play or have sore hips? Reverse it! Turn around so your back faces your partner- this changes the angle, which can help your hips feel better, and keeps the focus away from the ladies (great if you're nips are super sensitive or leaking colostrum - which is totally normal, btw). 

Another way to get the oxytocin flowing?? ORGASM. Not into the idea of penetrative sex? Try out the head-between-your-thighs position and clear your schedule! 

Our parting words of advice?

Communication! It really is the key to good sex. Talk about what's feeling good, sore, or sensitive before sex. Then, communicate (touches, moans, moving of hands) DURING sex, too.

Remember, there's nothing sexier than than enthusiastic consent and mutual satisfaction!